My roommate got mad at me for letting my guests use his bathroom because his is a detached bathroom while mine is part of the master bedroom. I asked if my guests made a mess and he replied no
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Unless you cleared it with him in advance, that sounds about right. Your friends use your bathroom, his friends use his.
@KPMG is correct. That bathroom is your roommate's space. How would you feel if your roommate told his/her guests to use your bathroom without clearing it first?
You shouldn't invade your roommate's space without asking, especially if your friends, who are strangers to him, are in his space. Next time have YOUR guests use YOUR bathroom. Or ask permission to use his (and be prepared for "NO" as a possibility). Don't assume that because you were ok with this, other people will be too.
Got it. Thanks everyone for clearing that up. This is the first time I lived in the master bedroom and my previous roommates always did that so I just assumed that it's common practice.
Depends on how you look at it - Your roommate: someone just took a leak in a bathroom, what's the big deal? You: You are invading somebody else's privacy, rent the other room if you are going to have guests who need to use bathroom.
Basically, if the guest asked 'where's the restroom' and you point to your roommates' restroom, that's wrong if you haven't cleared with your roommate. If the guest didn't ask you and just randomly found the closest restroom and that happens to be your roommate's, that's not your fault because you didn't get an opportunity to clarify. Know that sometimes some people are overtly protective / sensitive about sharing their personal space / premise / belongings, so the best you can do is recognize that as a potential future issue and a sign for you to play it safe. Don't think it's that big an issue, just tell him/ her that you appreciate them telling you this, and you'll be more careful. And offer them an apple 🍎. Peace
I'm in the same situation - my roommate doesn't care because I made it clear that was part of the deal when we agreed I would pay more for the master bedroom. No reason people should have to go through my room to get to the bathroom when there's one in the main area.
That said, I think you should just have a conversation with him about it and volunteer to help clean or something
I think a little more context might come in handy here: is your roommates bathroom the "main" bathroom in the apartment? My last apartment had two baths - 1 in the hallway and 1 in the master bedroom. The hallway was the main bath that I used daily and that all guests used. My roommate had the master and pretty much had the bathroom to himself. Of course, he also paid extra to have a larger room with an en suite bath.
I think you're right OP. I've been in that situation many times and the guests always used the detached bathroom (currently, I have the detached bathroom)
Yeah, I would have assumed what you did is the norm, unless he specified otherwise. Which he now has. So there you go.
Your room mate has every right to be annoyed. Just because you pay extra doesn't make you the boss in the house. To be clear, you pay extra for the attached bathroom, not to have your friends use his restroom. If they're your friends you should have no problem letting them use yours. you should've had the least bit of courtesy to ask your room mate, and not just simply assume it's okay.
... and that he just doesn't like other people to use his space and my guests should only use my bathroom. I haven't been in this situation before. When I didn't have a master bedroom, my precious roommates' guests have always used my bathroom and I had no problem with that. Is it me being inconsiderate or him being over-sensitive? I pay more in rent for the master bedroom too
As someone with a second floor master. I reg have a ton of girls use my bathroom to piss or whatever. No big deal
We never explicitly agreed that his is the 'main' bathroom. But yes, his bathroom is in the hallway so it's more accessible for guests. This is actually the second apartment that we have shared. In the previous apartment, when we had guests over for parties and pregame, his had always been the one that our guests used. But since we moved to the new apartment a few months ago, he has seemed to become strict/sensitive about things like this.
Do you pay more for the Master? Either way, seems like a convo to have with him. But I would think guests would use the main bathroom.
He was likely always bothered by it but is just now saying something. You can ask to clarify that its a "never" situation (parties, one or two guests, etc) and then let your guests know.
Gotcha, K1